Addiction

I will never fail my nephew like his parents did when they chose their drugs over their son. He lost his mother because of her choices. His father, my brother still after over two years does not have a sense of what the reality of his actions are. He told me he feels like he is losing his son and wants overnights, then in the same breath tells me his hasn’t been totally clean these past 2.5years. Here is my response….

The only person that can make you lose your son is you and your choices. Are you making wise choices?? When it comes to facetime, he is a 4-year old little boy that has days when he doesn’t want to talk on the phone, mostly because he is preoccupied playing because that is his priority. He enjoys spending time with you, so stop being so dramatic. Thank you for being honest with me regarding your sobriety. Your sobriety needs to be your main concern because without it you have nothing else. As you explained you were sober from February 2020 to May 2020, from use of opioids, where you gave in. You have been telling me you’ve been clean this entire time. So you have been lying to all of us and jeopardizing the safety of your family, again. Now supposedly you’re clean again. Your honesty is appreciated. Here are some additional concerns; you do not have a steady job; your still breaking the law by driving without a license; your smoking in your house with your children; I still do not trust you 100%. All of these issues are why there will not be any overnights with Brooks and just daytime visits. Brooks needs consistency in his life, he needs stability, he needs to know that his father is trying to better his life. You talk the talk, but have not proven you can walk the line. We want you in your sons life, your his father. He deserves to have a father that can behave as a responsible adult who makes true sacrifices for his children to give them a better life. All of your behaviors have not changed. If it wasn’t for your girlfriend in all honesty I would not let you be alone with Brooks, because I don’t trust you. The baby has his mother to protect him from your bad choices and behaviors, your son has ME. I will protect him and fight for him, forever. Because you can’t be trusted to be clean and that breaks my heart. Your my baby brother, I love you. I want to see you succeed and be a productive, healthy adult in society and in your family life. But you have not shown that ever. You have not even contributed to his care in 2 years. You told me your sons are your motivation to better your life. Prove it. I just see you spinning in the same circle and not actually moving forward. Its extremely sad to me, I know your capable of doing better. Being sober for 5 months and then only another 2 months, that is not moving forward. I’m glad that you keep going back to try to be sober, that is wonderful. My job is to make sure your son, my nephew has a healthy, safe, loving and stable life. You understood that when you gave me custody of Brooks, because you knew you did not have the ability or resources to give him those things in life. I take my responsibility extremely serious, he is my main concern. I need you to be straight and to work to better yourself. There will never be any overnights until I 100% know your able to not have a setback in your sobriety. I’m NOT willing to risk your sons life because you can’t control your behaviors. We all have choices, start making wise ones.